If you knew your significant other's personal email password, would you check it once in a while?

A while back my girl gave it to me to check something for her. This was a while back but she hasn't changed it (she doesn't check her email often). We met online. I came across old letters from previous online dating members in her inbox. I gave in a read some. I feel pretty bad about it.





She has spoken online with a few but they're short responses. Only one email mentioned that she's dating someone. That's good news. Last couple of weeks there's been almost no email exchanges with dudes from dating sites that I know of.





I'm tempted to write pretending to be someone else. No way. That's pretty lame, I know. But tempting.





I need to ask her to change her password or I'm gonna become obsessed on trying to bust her...maybe finding something I don't want to find. What would you do? Serious adult answers please. Thanks.
If you knew your significant other's personal email password, would you check it once in a while?
I would never give anyone my email password. I think you should talk to her. Just be completely honest and say something like.."you know how you gave me your email password to check stuff awhile ago..well i kinda couldn't help looking in there ok. I am really sorry. I just feel like I want to keep looking and I know its nosy but at the same time its just human curiousity. Please can you change your password cos i really don't want to invade your privacy. I do feel a bit insecure about some stuff i saw..." etc. You get the idea.


Now if i were her and I gave you my password I would not be overly freaked that you had looked in there altho I wouldn't like that you had done it again. It is a privacy invasion(I would do exactly the same thing as you had done..hey!) But if you are honest hopefully you can get your fears resolved and improve communication with her. Only you know the best way to do that i guess.
Reply:you need to come clean because you have trust issues and it doesn't sound like she's given you any reason to be snooping around. let her decide whether or not to change it after you tell her what you've been doing. if i was her, i'd change it unbeknownst to you; you violated her trust. and if she was testing you....you failed.
Reply:You are right. Ask her to change her password and the situation will be fixed.
Reply:I will definitely peek. That's why I my password is secret.
Reply:i would suck it up and not check it!!!


thats an invasion of privacy





would you like it if she is checking your email all the time without even knowing!!!





i would hate it, so i wouldnt do it to someone else!!!





Golden rule:


treat others as you would like to be treated!!!








im not even an adult


but im as mature as one!!! so ha!
Reply:Yes, I did. While I was pregnant with BOTH of my kids, my husband has a nasty porn problem, and ignored me completely. If he had paid attention to me, I wouldn't have suspected him, but I did. I still know his password(s) and still check *very* infrequently, but he also scans the disgusting porn sites *very* infrequently. Men are stupid--they should change their passwords...
Reply:I still do do this lol. How naughty of me. However my partner is away for four weeks at a time, so i just check it for him, delete anything that looks like junk and pass on anything important for him. I dont go snooping though id feel like i had no trust for him. It would be oh so tempting to catch them out doing something they shouldnt be though wouldnt it?


I wouldnt write her an email pretending to be someone else. After all, what if she did reply and you didnt like the response? You've just set yourself up for trouble.


Perhaps you could mention to her, apparently there have been a lot of email hackers lately, you might want to change your password so they dont hack you, i changed mine. That way it doesnt sound like you've just been in her account. Its really not a big deal though, you just need to stop yourself from looking in there. Although its tempting just have some self control and tell yourself that its not yours to look at.
Reply:I confess I used to do this. I stopped when I became more confident in our relationship. My excuse is he had broken my heart once before. What is yours? There has to be a reason you don't trust her. You need to work on that first. Changing her password isn't going to make this feeling go away.





Good luck.